For some reason, I find it harder to find what I'm looking for in the R help than just about any other language. That's why you end up not knowing about useful packages for a very long time. Is that just me?
When looking for an R package that does something specific, I usually go to the R package list [1] and search for what I am looking for ("SQL" if I want an SQL connector or "sparse" if I want something with sparse matrix). I generally end up finding a package that does what I need.